"Therapy-speak" is a term used to describe clinical psychology language that's making its way into mainstream culture. Efforts to promote mental health awareness and reduce stigma are essential to creating a supportive and inclusive environment for individuals who may need help. But certain words, like depression, have become misconstrued. So I'm breaking down a few words that fall into the category of commonly misinterpreted therapy-speak. 

Trauma

Trauma refers to an emotional or psychological response to a distressing or disturbing event that exceeds your ability to cope with the experience. Traumatic events can be single incidents (such as accidents, natural disasters, or violent attacks) or prolonged situations (like ongoing abuse, combat exposure, or neglect). The response to trauma can vary widely, and not everyone who experiences trauma will develop related symptoms.

Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a psychological manipulation tactic used to make someone doubt their perceptions, memory, or sanity. It involves discrediting someone's reality, creating doubt and confusion, diminishing their feelings and emotions, and blaming or isolating them. Gaslighting is a form of abuse that can severely affect someone's self-esteem, mental well-being, and overall sense of reality. 

Narcissist

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a clinical diagnosis characterized by grandiosity, the need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. These traits and behaviors must be persistent and cause significant impairment in various areas of functioning for the diagnosis of NPD. It's important to note that having some narcissistic traits doesn't mean someone has NPD. Personality traits exist on a spectrum, and a clinical diagnosis should be made by a qualified mental health professional based on a comprehensive evaluation of the individual's symptoms and life history. 

Trauma Bonding

Trauma bonding refers to a strong emotional attachment that forms between an abused person and their abuser as a result of the cycle of abuse and intermittent reinforcement. It often occurs in situations where a person experiences recurring abuse, manipulation, or harm from someone with whom they have a significant emotional connection, such as an intimate partner, family member, or caregiver. Trauma bonding can be a severely challenging situation for the individual involved. 

Naming clinical issues in mental health can have significant benefits for individuals seeking help. Potential advantages of diagnosis include accurate understanding and treatment, reduced stigma, empowerment and self-understanding, and insurance coverage. On the other hand, diagnosis can come with potential drawbacks and limitations like oversimplification, stigma, the medicalization of natural human emotions, and barriers to care. Diagnosis should never define a person entirely, and mental health professionals should consider the individual's unique circumstances, cultural background, and personal experiences to provide compassionate and holistic care. 

Lily Gordon is a Self Space therapist who works with people navigating grief, loss, anxiety, the effects of trauma, life transitions, and relationship difficulties. She can help you move through difficult times and toward a more authentic and fulfilling life.